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D | Lincolnshire| 03/09/2018 | 1
My wife and I have recently separated. The equity in the house is going to be split 50/50. We don't have any other meaningful assets. We have agreed to co-parent the children equally. My wife is requesting that I pay £200/month in child maintenance, and an additional £150 for child care and school expenses. The CMS document "How we work out child maintenance", states that shared child care results in no child maintenance payments. However, I do agree with the child care and school expenses payments. Our daughter has Autism Spectrum Disorder, and my wife gets £430 per month for her in Disability Living Allowance. I do not get any of this. My wife also works full time on at least £30k. If I don't pay the £200 child maintenance, plus £150 child care and school expenses, my wife is threatening me with making a claim for spousal maintenance, and taking half my pension. My pension isn't worth a great deal anyway. Should I pay the £350/month or take my chances in court?
I can really sympathise with your situation, as it sounds like you are both having some good honest conversations with each other for the sake of the children. I can understand why you feel it's not fair to pay the £350 per month, if she receives the benefits to help financially support your daughter.
The court has no jurisdiction over child support, unless the payee’s income is over a certain threshold (£3000 per week). Assuming that’s not the case, the court would consider a few other factors, like:
I believe that sharing the care doesn’t necessarily mean exactly 50/50 nights, and the courts are generally not keen on seeing children as commodities in that way, (which I know you also are not). What I mean is, there are cases where one parent will deliberately suppress the nights the other gets in order to get more maintenance, or perhaps the paying party will try to increase their nights in order to reduce the liability.
As you are married, your wife may well have an entitlement to your pensions and/or share of other assets, but really a solicitor should advise you on this, as it is not a foregone conclusion that she'd get 50% of your pension. There are other factors involved such as:
If you haven’t done already, seek some guidance and advice from a divorce lawyer. Often they can give you free guidance before you commit to a decision.
I would also encourage a third party to perhaps be present during a conversation with your wife. You may also like to consider a Mckenzie friend before seeking legal advice. This may be less costly for you, and they can support and guide you. I would also recommend contacting a financial planner, as they will be able to advise you on what different scenarios look like for you. They'll be able to assess the financial implications of different options, to see what effect this will have on your financial situation.
I wish you all the best. Give me a shout if I can be of any further help.
You may also find it helpful to read through the Boring Money learning path 'Divorce – the financial bits', and paraplanner Richard Allum's article 'Pension advice and divorce'.
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Catherine Morgan
Catherine has a passion for educating women around the behavioural and practical aspects of money. She is a Mum of two and founder of The Money Panel, a money guidance business for women, helping to support them in managing their personal and business finances. She's was nominated as a finalist in the Women in Financial services award 2018, and works as a regulated financial planner.
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Rory | Ham | 28/08/2020 | 7
As a retiree with spare cash, how can I invest outside of my pension?
Wilson | ARL | 19/08/2020 | 1
I am looking for a new home for my SIPP. I am looking for a SIPP with low charges and which is easy to set up & run, as I am 75 now and keep forgetting I have dementia. Or do you think I should just leave it where it is?
Geoffrey | South Yorkshire | 08/08/2020 | 0
The charges for my SIPP are around 1.5% per annum. When I look at other SIPP fees they are a lot lower than this. Am I paying over the top in charges?
Andrew | Greater Manchester | 04/08/2020 | 3
I'm 50 now and hope to retire at 60. I have been paying into Vanguard Lifestrategy for a few months now. I have just 9.5 years to pay in and grow, do you think this is a long enough period to invest in or should I stick with cash if shares and bonds are likely to take a hit in a few years?
Richard | Hull | 25/06/2020 | 47
I really don’t like this market meltdown during the coronavirus outbreak. Should I sell and just get out?
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Should I still make regular ISA and pension investments in the current COVID-19 turmoil? Or is it better saving to cash?
Andrew | UK | 17/03/2020 | 5
I'm thinking of moving into a drawdown SIPP, taking my 25% and leaving the rest invested until I need a regular income in my mid 60s. I am trying to find a financial adviser willing to review my plans, but they all want an ongoing relationship. Where can I find an adviser who will do a one off review? Also I am unsure whether financial investment protection is per fund or per SIPP.
Susan | London | 16/07/2019 | 17
I have a small pension which I have not drawn on yet, and I am seriously thinking about cashing it in, as I’m worried Brexit will mean substantial losses. Would I be better off just leaving it where it is?
Anne | South Yorkshire | 19/06/2019 | 0
How can I find out how my Aviva SIPP pension is performing against the competition? I'm 51. The fund value is £161K and it was opened a year ago. Appreciate any tips.
Danny | London | 30/05/2019 | 1
I'm in my late 30s, have a mortgage, a baby, no outstanding loans or credit cards, three pensions, and two Cash ISAs. I’d like to invest to renovate our house, help fund our children’s education and help them onto the property ladder, and retire as soon as possible! I considered a LISA but thought I might be better paying off more of the mortgage. I'm also confused about using a platform for a Stocks and Shares ISA. Any advice would be appreciated! Keep up the good work, I’m impressed with how refreshingly approachable your website is.
Nick | Berkshire | 29/05/2019 | 5
Hello, I already have a workplace pension. Can I also have a private pension? If so, I have a LISA as well. Can I have all three in place?
Precious | Surrey | 23/05/2019 | 0
I am a self-employed 55 year old, with only a state pension. What can I do to increase my money for retirement?
Sandra | Dumfries and Galloway | 21/05/2019 | 1
We have just retired to France. Our pensions cover our expenses but we also have £230k which we would like to invest for a monthly income. Could you please explain the low-risk options we might want to consider?
Keith | France | 10/05/2019 | 2
I want to invest £10,000. I cannot see on your website how to do this. Please explain.
Clive | Carmarthenshire | 29/04/2019 | 0
I've been reading about Beaufort Securities, and how they potentially didn't ring-fence investor money properly. What is the best way to avoid this happening to my money?
Jenny | Greater Manchester | 29/04/2019 | 4
We have £100,000 in Premium Bonds to invest. We need it as serious illness has changed our lives completely. We have been advised to invest in a Capital Investment Bond, but fees seem high to me - 0.3% and 1.7% management and on-going advice. I'm considering Wealthify or other online funds. Can you help?
Melanie | London | 25/03/2019 | 3
When I retired in 2018, I considered consolidating my pensions for income drawdown. Recently I spoke to an advisers aligned to the investment philosophy of Albion Strategic Consulting, but was scared off again. I understand the basics, but am now totally unsettled as to the direction I should take and if, at such a critical stage, I should invest in an IFA on a regular basis.
Rob | Hertfordshire | 20/03/2019 | 3
I am 25 years old and just starting to manage my money like an adult! I attended university from 2012-2015, and as such I have a full student loan on repayment plan 2. The value of my loan at present is £43k, and at the current rates of interest, I pay back less than the interest each month. Having undertaken some cash flow analysis, I know I will be one who repays their loan in full and estimate it will take 15-18 years to fully pay back. Over this period I am likely to incur over £30k of interest. If I could pay the loan off in full, is that worth doing? Or is that £43k better put to work elsewhere in investments?
Tom | London | 15/03/2019 | 0
If my son increases his pension contribution, I have read it may affect the amount he can borrow on a mortgage. Is this correct? Should he take a SIPP out as well? Is there any advantage in maxing out his managed Nutmeg Lifetime ISA in the next financial year?
Richard | Hertfordshire | 06/03/2019 | 3
I am 65 and still working. I have a workplace pension, which was closed and replaced with a retirement saver pension. I contribute to this via salary sacrifice. I also have a personal pension serviced by an IFA. Should I move my personal pension fund to a SIPP provider at this late stage of my life? I would like to consolidate the workplace retirement saver and personal pension fund together and manage it myself.
Den | South Yorkshire | 27/02/2019 | 0
Trying to get a bit more pro-active with my pension. If my money had been in an online managed fund like Nutmeg for example, is it reasonable to assume that as the markets fell last year the funds would have been managed in real(ish) time to limit the damage? If so, is it therefore a no-brainer to transfer my pension to an online managed pension or is it not quite as simple as that?
David | London | 08/02/2019 | 4
I've been reading recently about how investment trusts are much the same as funds, but are cheaper to own. A: Is this true? and B: Do you have an article on Investment trusts on your site?
Nick | Surrey | 16/01/2019 | 11
Hello, I really enjoy your website and find it useful and concise. My question is, what is meant by long term savings? I am 54, so what should I consider to be an appropriate time frame for any investment I make, that could supply the best results?
Jennifer | Essex | 16/01/2019 | 11
I have an old pension and they have written to me saying that they are going to enhance my pension if I transfer it out. The company is also offering free independent advice. I have £117,000 in the pension at the moment, which would give me £6400 a year at 65. I am 61 in April and would like to finish work at that point. I am not sure how much extra they will give me. Have you any ideas or suggestions to help me decide? Thanks.
Nicholas | Carmarthenshire | 04/01/2019 | 4
I'm the sole carer for my chronically ill and elderly mum, as well as a full-time police officer. I have no other family apart from her. Due to mum's condition, and the fact that I'm exhausted performing both roles, the only option is to go part-time, as mum won't accept help from anyone else. To allow me to go part-time, I will need about £25,000 until March 2020 when I will be retiring. I’m confident of getting another job shortly thereafter. In January 2021, I will receive a commutation lump sum of about £50,000. I have a sizeable fund portfolio under an ISA wrapper with Hargreaves Lansdown. That is doing very well, so I don't really want to sell any of these funds and 'lend myself money' from that. My ideal funding solution would be a bond-type IOU agreement, where 'someone' lends me the money. Are you aware of a peer-to-peer site that could assist? Thanks
Dave | Hertfordshire | 27/11/2018 | 1
Do you have any recommendations for books that I can buy my 18 year old daughter for Xmas on the subject of pensions and investments so she can start to understand the subjects? She's young I know but I would like to get her started. Many thanks!
Nicki | Devon | 15/11/2018 | 2
I am 25 and starting to seriously financially plan out my future. I would really welcome a 'sense check' on my thinking as well as some help on which investment choices to make. My goals are: To invest for 15 years - my risk appetite is very high (i.e. I could afford to lose all my money). Goal 1 - More Important: To have an investment pot of £1,500,000. Goal 2 - Less Important: To be mortgage free. My plan is: 1) Open an annual Stocks and Shares ISA each of the next 15 years. 2) Open Share trading/dealing account. 3) Reduce my mortgage term to 6 years by 2025. I appreciate the above is a lot to go though, but I'd welcome any help and guidance.
Mo | London | 15/10/2018 | 5
Can I use the Help to Buy scheme to buy a house in Jamaica? Kind regards, Kishana
Kishana | London | 11/09/2018 | 1
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Sonia | Greater London | 09/08/2018 | 2
I am 73 and cautious. There are two areas that your advice would be helpful..what if you just spend thousands on buying the gold standard footsie companies like shell and the rest and keep them for five years and then cash them in ?
DB | UK | 24/07/2018 | 6
My wife needs to set up a SIPP with a good value, low cost, low maintenance underlying investment portfolio. We want a good mobile app from a well respected provider. Where can we see the options and directly compare historic returns so we can make a decision?
Guy | Hertfordshire | 17/07/2018 | 1
I was considering applying for Individual protection 2016, which I understand would give me an LTA of £1,021,390. However, following the inflation rise of the Lifetime Allowance, it seems the LTA is now at £1,030,000. It now seems pointless applying for Individual protection 2016. Have I got this right?
David | London | 12/06/2018 | 0
If I take a lump sum from my pension at age 55, what is the rate of tax after the first 25%?
Judy | UK | 17/05/2018 | 1
How long does it take to release money from your pension at 55 years old?
Diane | West Yorkshire | 01/05/2018 | 1
Do you have information on taking your pension pot before retirement? My husband is 62, on a final salary scheme & is trying to get clear information on it.
Jo | 17/04/2018 | 3
Hi, I've got an old D.B. pension, approximate value £12k. I would like to invest & top up each month. Who would you recommend? Also I would like to make an investment, & don't know where to start? Thanks
Eve | 04/04/2018 | 5
My question is about my wife's pension valuation in a divorce situation. She is on a final salary scheme working for a national charity organisation. I feel the CETV value is too low and certainly does not take into account the inbuilt benefits such as guranteed final salary, life insurance.
Jay | UK | 12/02/2018 | 1
I am a 59 yr old retired lady with no income but I have reasonable equity..is it worth starting a pension or is it too late?
LL | Norfolk | 06/02/2018 | 2
Hi, If I take a lump sum from my pension at age 55, what is the rate of tax after the first 25% ??
Gareth | Hampshire | 26/01/2018 | 0
Can losses in a pension SIPP be offset against anything?
Henryk | Hampshire | 17/01/2018 | 1
Could you be kind enough to let me know what would be the best instant access savings account for me.?I would like any interest to be paid to me monthly. Thank you
Roy | Lancashire | 17/12/2017 | 2
How do I start investing, buy stocks, bitcoin, etc with £100?
Claudette | Bedfordshire | 18/11/2017 | 1
I am a 59 yr old retired lady with no income but I have reasonable equity..is it worth starting a pension or is it too late?
LL | Norfolk | 10/11/2017 | 2
If I were retired and drawing my pension, can I earn an income from doing some sports coaching too? If so, how much can I earn without it affecting my pension? Thanks
Charlotte | Devon | 07/11/2017 | 0
Please help me. Choosing a pension from Aviva. It asks if I want growth or income? Which one do I choose ? I'm 46 .
Ria | Greater London | 11/09/2017 | 9
Is getting more money on a Mortgage a good way to raise some cash? I have a tiny tiny mortgage on a London property and could do with £50k to spend on other stuff. Would I be better to get the money by remortgaging or borrowing?
Louise | Greater London | 07/09/2017 | 1
Could you be kind enough to let me know what would be the best instant access savings account for me? I would like any interest to be paid to me monthly. Thank you
Anon | UK | 29/05/2018 | 0
Why should I bother with paying into a pension at my age of 55 years now when I have never had one?
Tee | Greater London | 07/09/2017 | 7
Can I sort a pension out myself online?
Sharon | Greater London | 07/09/2017 | 0
What is the Help to Buy ISA and how does it work?
Dylan | Greater London | 07/09/2017 | 0
What might a savings pot of £100,000 get me as a retirement income?
Aboodi | Greater London | 06/09/2017 | 2
What is a credit score and why do I need it?
Cameron | Greater London | 06/09/2017 | 1
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Sedef | Greater London | 06/09/2017 | 1
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Roderick | Greater London | 06/09/2017 | 0
What are the changes with pension annuities? My mother in law has asked as her retirement is looming. I've read in the press it's changing but it all feels confusing. I just need some simple clear advice. Thanks
Keith | Greater London | 06/09/2017 | 2
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